Are you an animal lover?
What follows is just some curiosity, and thoughts that I have in my head. My conversational topics usually start with such a foundation. Do you want to know what to start a conversation with? Do you want to know what to talk about? ..and do you want to know this without using canned “material” from someone else’s contrived repertoire?
Yes, then here’s an example. It’s just current things I’ve experienced, or seen this past week, and therefore I’m talking about it with people. Is it high octane high energy opening material for a loud night club? Not in and of itself, but if your personal energy is at the right level, and you interact with people in a captivating way using such things as; teasing, social control, and describing your thoughts or stories with passion in an animated manner, then yes it can be. Delivery is everything! This type of casual conversation is also ideal for day time settings.
If you are stuck for an opener, and a conversation right now, then by all means try this out verbatim as an example. Note though that it’s untested and unrefined, as I was just thinking about this today. I have no real world responses to encourage you with this time. From past experience though I’m sure it will be fine. Women love talking about pets, and many of the girls I meet are animal lovers and pet owners. Then of course conversations about babies are very woman centric lol.
The Openers
- “Are you an animal lover..or an animal hater?” (point to target.. “Oh she’s definitely an animal hater isn’t she.”)
- “Do you think that spending $2,500 on a pure bred dog is wrong, when you can adopt one?”
- “Adoption verses buying a pet?”
- “What do you think about parents who are choosing their child’s sex, and eye color?”
- “Did you know that people are choosing their baby’s eye color and sex now?.. what do you think about that?”
The Post-Opener Story
I was chatting to a couple of random strangers outside my regular caffeine watering hole 2 days ago. One had this absolutely beautiful pit-bull pup, who was totally friendly and seemed to like licking my arm for some reason. I love pit-bulls, and would get one if my lifestyle were conduce to taking care of one. I’ve only ever seen two dogs like this one. The other was on Melrose in West Hollywood. An adult dog, huge head, and strong masculine stance, silky grey coat, with a thick choker around it’s neck. It’s owner was a ripped bodybuilder who was wearing a tank. A well suited duo indeed.
Ok back to the random strangers.. The other chap in the conversation was on one of those small stunt bicycles. He had recently left the navy, and was looking for a job. He asked the dog owner how much he paid for his dog, as apparently he had a family member who breeds them. The answer was $2,500. My first instinct was like woah.. that’s way too much to spend buying a dog, especially when there are so many that need a home. You can adopt for free. Not to mention that it just seemed so extravagant next to the jobless guy, who by the looks of him could barely afford food.
Just so you know, I own two cats. I adopted them when they were 12 week old kittens. They are cute, adorable, and I love them. Am I a cat person rather than a dog person? Not necessarily, but with traveling and my semi-nomadic life cats seem easier to take care of. Although they can be a challenge. I’m going to have them for a long time, which I probably didn’t realize in it’s entirety when adopting them. So back to the dog. A dog can be a life companion, who will be with you for a significant part of your life. Is it that wrong to pay for the exact breed and characteristics you want? Perhaps not, but dogs are sent to the pound because there aren’t enough owners for them, and some say that dog breeders only add to the problem.
While doing cardio in the gym the other night I saw a segment on the news about a couple of proud parents, who just had two baby boys. Apparently they went to a clinic in California which utilized some nifty genetic manipulation, thereby ensuring their babies were both boys! Yes, you heard me correctly.. there are some parents out there right now who are choosing their baby’s eye color, and sex! So what’s a few dollars in comparison to purchase the dog you want? I’m still not sure where I stand on either of these issues.. but I do know that it can make for some interesting, and perhaps heated conversations.
I know several people who have family members that suffer from mental illness. It often ruins those families, literally some suffer financial ruin, and often dealing with those types of people also strips the “loved ones” of their emotional and physical well being. Consider being able to genetically guarantee that would never happen. Would you choose playing god over spending the rest of your life in distress. ..and if so then.. does that change your stance on the dog issue?
Points To Consider About Your Delivery
Remember with this type of unscripted conversation you have to move things along with flirtatious and sexual tones. At the same time it’s important to conveying positive, and attractive traits throughout your interaction. Such as; confidence, being the social leader, masculine sexuality, preselection by other women, etc.
I would also avoid talking about anything that might make someone feel bad, or reflect on negative issues. Therefore, I would leave out any discussion about mental illness, and keep it more lighthearted and upbeat. Later on in comfort I certainly talk about life, and any and all difficult issues within it. Being able to be more serious at the right time is also important in sharing your depth of character with another person. Emotional sharing is a good thing, and powerful when timed right. That is very different from being a negative person. Dwelling on upsetting or negative topics will only serve to push others away. Nobody wants to be around someone that makes them feel bad emotions.
Hey JDog,
Funny, I'd been thinking about trying out a “Hey, I was thinking of buying a dog, what do you think's a good breed?” opener for a while now, and your post just reminded me. Although I suspect with a lot of girls that opener could hit a dead end pretty quick, as maybe giving the girl too much to think about is in danger of not making her not think about it at all, and she'll immediately shutdown and say “sorry, I don't know,” leading to a pretty quick FAIL – although I could be wrong on that, as I'm still learning. I don't know, what do you think, is it better not to make your opinion opener not too open that it requires too much thought from the target? Is it better to go for a “A” or “B” type question?
I guess she'd almost certainly also has to like dogs, else I'll hit another dead end. But your post got me thinking about it more, and I came up with what I think should be a more entertaining variant “Hey, I was thinking of buying a dog. Which do you think would suit me best, a labrador or a poodle?” which hopefully should make her chuckle. My thinking though, is, is that if you add humour, you're making the opener more direct? You're telling her you want to make her laugh, so she knows it's just not a curious question, you have more of an agenda going on, so it's harder to “fly under the radar,” maybe? Although I guess it's possible she might think you're still asking a serious question, but you're a bit on the quirky side. 😀
I strongly suspect if I use this opener, 90% of girls will say “poodle” – least the ones with an ounce of fun in them should :D, to which I guess I could reply “Are you sure? You don't think it would make me look a bit gay?” Where it would go from there, I don't know. Probably “Are you/aren't you gay?” to which I could reply “Only on Thursdays, I'm straight as they come any other day” maybe? ;P I guess she doesn't even have to like dogs for that variant either, as anyone with half a brain can relate to a the image of a poodle and what a guy walking one conjures up.
I don't know, what do you reckon, am I on the right track? 🙂