If you follow that path, then you also have to ask yourself what justification do you have for this younger image that you portray? It’s better if it makes logical sense somehow. Several things should be in alignment when leveraging an overall image in this way, such as your personality style, and your identity. Identity being various aspects about what you do in life, in addition to how you make your living.

Of course, like you described.. what limits men the most when it comes to meeting younger women is how they feel about the situation in their own head, and their internal dialogue & emotions associated with that.

If you want to socialise in an environment where you are much older than the average person, then you have to be 100% comfortable with the idea of being there. One of my close friends is 44, and we were having this same conversation the other day. His major sticking point is caused by the thoughts in his own head. We are often hanging out with younger women in their early 20’s, and they like him (read: are attracted to him,) but he sometimes acts or says things that limit his chances.

Some of the tactics out there that are supposed to help older guys actually hurts them, in my opinion. For example being evasive when she asks you how old you are. That can often leave a concern in her mind what will cause her to lose interest.

When you think something is an issue, it will find a way to become an issue. I must write an article about meeting younger women.. there’s just too much to articulate in this reply. It is easier than most guys think.. Younger women do have a common fantasy about older men.. but social norms and peer pressures are constantly changing. From my experience it’s important for her to be intrigued, interested, attracted, and accept the age difference.

Once she accepts the age difference as no big deal, she will convince her friends to think that it’s actually a positive thing. SHE will sell her friends on the idea of you, to get their buy in. Alternatively, if by the time she introduces you to her friends she is still undecided about her feelings of being with a much older guy, then you have to convince both her and her friends that it’s not creepy. You are reducing your chances and giving yourself too much work to do in the process.

Some quick tips:
1. Desensitise yourself to the social environment. If it’s a club then go there with some positive friends 2-3 weeks in a row just to hang out and have fun there. If it’s a certain type of club or bar, then similarly spend some time there having fun, and getting used to the environment.

2. Try dissipating any possible tension about the age question early. You will have to use trial and error here to see what fits with; your vibe, your personality style, your image, and girl’s common perceptions of you. One method, that just happens to be my preferred approach is to tell her indirectly how old I am very early on. This will be hinted at through stories about my life, where I specify what I was doing 10 years ago. I talk like it’s no big deal. I AM comfortable with my age. Girl’s get that I’m at least 10 years older than them very quickly.

3. Talk about how younger women find you attractive.. again trial and error here, on how subtle you need to be. This also happens to be TRUE for me.. it should become true for you. If not.. fake it till you make it. I don’t use routines much anymore, but I’m an excellent communicator, and I talk and tell stories about my life. One of the things I talk about is the theme of younger women. How younger women find me attractive, how I date a lot of younger women, and sometimes how I’m not happy doing so anymore, as even the more mature ones end up being immature, and acting too needy and childish. This is also true for me.

If you haven’t noticed this theme also conveys Pre-Selection, specifically with women of the same age as the girl I’m talking with. Remember though that my philosophy is one of being honest with women. Yes there is room for embellishing on stories, conversation starters, and themes.. but the general communication needn’t be misleading, dishonest or manipulative.

Thanks

DG