During the last few weeks I was in Chicago speaking to a seminar room full of women (truly amazing!), appeared on Chicago’s top talk radio show.. then spent 2 weeks in LA pitching new show concepts to several of the largest production companies currently in television… stayed in LA for fun (even met a bunch of movie stars), and networking, hung out with Mystery, Matador, Tara, Neil Strauss, and some of the guys from The PUA2.. aaannnddd then back to filming and editing for your viewing pleasure.
Where have you been JDOG? Whew it’s been a crazy last 4 months.. First I was teaching in London with Dr. Paul (amazing!) then I stayed in England for a month seeing old friends, and family. It had been 4 years since my last visit. Next I moved, so most of that month was packing moving, and unpacking again.
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Introduction To Sexual Communication
• How we feel
• Using Language
• Kino Escalation
• Balance of Emotions
• Vibes & Archetypes
In “I Touch Myself” we start a journey to investigate the building blocks of Sexual Communication & Masculinity.
I know that when a girl is not around me that she fantasises about me, and often times even touches herself while thinking about me! It certainly isn’t because of my looks. In fact it’s only been happening in more recent years since I truly started to feel and think differently about myself.
Once you truly like who you are as a person, once you are happy with what you do in life, and speak with conviction and passion.. and when you can look yourself in the mirror and believe that you are attractive, loveable, and deserving of a women’s affection.. when you add value to a woman’s life, both in and out of the bedroom.. when you are relaxed and confident that you don’t need anything from anybody else.. then you will find yourself communicating in a more sexually confident way.
Ok, so for some of my readers out there this may seem like an impossible task, or an overwhelming suggestion, or perhaps you are thinking, “Yes! This is Exactly how I want to feel about myself.” The good news is that there are steps you can take, and I intend to help you. Realise though that this is not an instant process, and many things feed into your self esteem and masculinity. Yes, I’m talking about the building blocks of your Self Esteem, and Masculinity here, because that is what will truly empower your sexual communication with women.
Masculine Sexual Communication Is a combination of several things, such as; how you feel about yourself, your vibe, using your language to excite her emotions, using your touch to make her anticipate being touched by you again, rolling off to convey that you are willing to walk away, and are non-needy, which in turn makes her feel much more comfortable with you.. such that she allows herself to become more turned on by you.
Failing to understand Sexual Communication is one of THE biggest mistakes I see men make, when trying to meet and attract women. Learning external skills for kino escalation, and routines is fine and dandy but without coming across with the right kind of sexual vibe, without sub-communicating real masculine sexuality, it’s unlikely that there is any real sexual tension taking place.
Now, consider what it would be like if you radiated out masculine sexuality.. no.. not in some NLP.. mind control, or kooky visualisation way.. but simply in the unspoken subtleties of your communication. If you feel confident and happy with what you are doing in life, if you actually like yourself, and if you have thoughts in your head that women like you upon meeting you..
..then something magical happens. You find that without even trying, without even thinking about it.. you start to communicate slightly differently, but these nuances have a powerful effect in how she feels about you. Because you feel better about yourself you will come across unrestricted, you will glance up and down her body, not in a needy, wanting, creepy way, but rather in a way of confident appreciation of feminine beauty.
Just like Daniel Goleman writes about in “Emotional Intelligence,” she will feel your emotions to some degree.. our brains have evolved to emulate the emotional state of those around us. She will feel a sexual confidence, and she will become more sexually excited, and interested, yet comfortable at the same time.
This is when those external skills really pay off. Your verbal teases, your touching, and rolling off, the sexual dance of one step forward and two steps back. I will be honest with you, this isn’t an easy combination of things to learn.. but once you communicate this way women will love you, and the best part is that you will just be you, without thinking about what tactic to run on her!
Live Life with Love and Passion,