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I am breaking down some of the finer points of sexual flirtation, when meeting and dating women. I keep things in simple terms, and show several real life interactions with an old girlfriend of mine. Watch for the natural flirtatious flow back and forth between the two of us. In fact you may want to watch this several times.

Sexual escalation is a combination of leading from casual comfort & superficial flirtation.. to more intimate touch, and an interaction that progresses with a more sexual tone. This sexually charged flirtatious dance is a natural process. Whether it’s more playful in nature as is often the case with my personality style, or more intense in nature that is perhaps more James Bond.. the underlying principles are the same.

• Use of language to sexually tease, make her laugh, or imply sexual themes.
• Notice her response, even very subtle positive indicators are a green light.
• If her response is positive (she gives you an indicator of interest, such as laughing, holding eye contact, initiating touch, flicking her hair, etc.) then touch her in a confident and comfortable manner. You could tell her something interesting about women’s rings or fingers, while demonstrating on her hand. This can be very sexy, and yet very safe and comfortable.
• Roll off to allow a brief cool down moment. This maintains a woman’s level of comfort. It is also part of the natural sexual dance that should flow back and forth in the mating game. This is also a moment of reflection on her part, albeit subconscious on how much she enjoyed your touch, how excited she was, how turned on she was, and yet how comfortable she is around you. She wants more. It becomes a moment of anticipation.

This little process repeats and you are now sexually escalating. Of course the danger is to progress too far in an inopportune place, such as the bar or coffee shop where you meet for the first time.

Why is progressing too fast, even with maintained comfort, generally a bad thing? I don’t know if you’ve ever met a girl in a club or on a dance floor, and made out with her, or perhaps did the bump and grind thing on the dance floor. Only to have her flake on you and never see you again.

If you progress too far then a woman is able to get powerfully sexually validated in an exciting public environment, while staying in her safe zone. She is safe because nothing is actually going to happen with you there. Women will do this even when they are not particularly attracted to a guy, and therefore have no intention of seeing the guy again from the get go. Alternatively, they may actually like you, but once things progress too far in that location the thought of seeing you again can make her feel awkward. If this happens she may avoid further contact with you.

Many guys miss these principles of progressing things in the right manner. Acting like a horny dog by pushing forwards with more aggressive touchy feely behaviour, often leads to the girl feeling discomfort. A women can be attracted to a guy one minute, and then turned off the next if she feels he is not connecting with her. If she senses he is only interested in her as a sex object. The exception being women looking for a one night stand, or some more overtly sexual women such as exotic dancers perhaps who don’t necessarily value emotional connection.

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I once read how subconscious processes take place while kissing, such that you are in a sense testing for biological compatibility. People who don’t like the taste of a potential mate will often screen that person out, even when they are otherwise attracted to them.

Kissing allows prospective mates to smell and taste each other’s pheromones for biological compatibility. Women are subconsciously more attracted to men whose major histocompatibility complex portion of their genome is different from their own, leading to offspring with resistance to a greater number of diseases due to heterosis, and thus having a better chance of survival. ~ except from Wikipedia

Years ago I heard a canned qualification routine about how kissing is important, and if a girl is not a good kisser then I don’t care how beautiful she is, it’s just not going to work out.. it’s a deal breaker! You would bring up such a subject after she gives you some IOI’s (Indicators Of Interest,) prior to conveying interest in her. Then you can progress happily into comfort, and kissing, etc. In the routine the guy then goes on to quiz the girl on if she is a good kisser.. challenges her.. kisses her.. and then tells her she’s average, or a solid 4 out of 10 or something. This teasing statement on the end dissipates any awkwardness, and helps maintain sexual tension. She may argue that she’s a good kisser, and you can say, ok maybe 6 or 7 out of 10 at a stretch.. hmm perhaps we just need more practice. Yes, it’s a fun little routine, and I admit to using it quite successfully.

You will find that the the more sexual choice you have, the more selective you become. This is true for both men and women. When a girl is a less than adequate kisser I’m not interested. I’m not going to give her kissing lessons.. I just lose interest. What really turns me right off though is when a girl has poor oral hygiene, tastes bad, has bad breath, or doesn’t floss!

I love.. love.. love thin and toned women.. BUT unfortunately we live in a time when it seems like every girl I meet has an eating disorder. Once you do a little googling on the subject it can be shocking to find message boards where thousands of women encourage each other to not eat, and to purge! Don’t even get me started on youtube’s thinspiration community. Hey ladies get a clue.. I’ve dumped a few girls because kissing them tasted so bad. Here’s a quote on what women think about the subject of kissing.

The other day I was walking with a friend and we got on the topic of men and their flossing habits. I asked her if it was wrong that I would stop considering a potential guy if he didn’t floss or wasn’t willing to start flossing.

I told her that non-flossing is a deal-breaker for me. It seemed so severe, so I was shocked that she actually agreed with me! This doesn’t mean we are high-maintenance, overly picky girls.

We just happen to love kissing men and insist that the recipient of our kisses provide a hygienic welcome. Personally, I don’t care if a man has a jacked-up grill. It’s how you take care of it, really. ~ from Dating Advice From a Girl

I admit it.. I AM fucking picky. Well guess what so are attractive women. So gentlemen, if you’re oral hygiene ain’t cutting it, perhaps it’s time to start putting as much emphasis into grooming, personal hygiene, and flossing, as you do on running openers.

Quite possibly all of the qualification routines out there will become true and real for you, once you reach the point where you are consistently dating the types of women you are attracted to. Until then you may have to fake it a little with the occasional story, test, challenge, routine.

So if Angelina Jolie greets you with a black tongue is she still a 10?

Don't mac on women with a black tongue!

A black, coated tongue is a temporary, harmless condition typically resulting from an overgrowth of bacteria and sometimes yeast in the mouth. These organisms accumulate on the tiny projections of the tongue — called papillae — and cause discoloration. Certain types of bacteria and yeast make red blood cell pigments (porphyrins), which can give the tongue a black appearance. In some cases, the tongue may also appear “hairy” due to more rapid growth of papillae or an interruption of the normal shedding of cells by the tongue.

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Yes, the 115 ° Arizona heat is getting to me, and in this episode I’m going a little crazy.. erm.. like an ape? 

Some great content for you, and I’m spicing things up a little this week, so I hope you like it. I’m covering several different topics, and you get to see how I am when hanging out with a girl.

Filmed at La Bocca urban pizzeria & wine bar on Mill Avenue in Tempe, Arizona.
 

Topics Covered

• The Opposite Effect
• Transitioning
• Shit Tests
• JDOG & Girl
• Sexual Misinterpretation
• The Virtual Map

In “Going Ape” there’s a little bit of everything, although no homework exercises in the video this time.

I don’t think that I need to write too much about this one, tho I am curious to read your comments regarding the format of this video. In the next episode I’m planning on delving into just one topic for the entire half hour, possibly comfort game, or charismatic storytelling. 

A simple concept such as The Opposite Effect can actually get you consistent flirtatious responses. In fact, from my experience creating the right first impression can be one of your most seductive abilities, and it is often overlooked. Remember that women categorize men rather quickly into a “yes” “no” or “maybe.” 

Well I don’t know about you, but if I’m not instantly a yes in her mind then I’d sure like to be placed in the maybe category, by creating a little sexual tension early on. 

Obviously there’s a lot more to these topics than I have time to cover in 30 minutes.. perhaps that’s why I’m planning on setting dates for my Charismatic Attraction workshops soon… *grin* 

Cheers.. J!

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