picking up a girl while she's driving

“Picking Up A Younger Woman While She’s Driving.”

I was exchanging stories with a friend recently on the topic of how we met some of our girlfriends. If I could bottle my friend’s attitude and sell that to you I would definitely make a fortune. He is what most people would call a “natural,” as in he’s a natural with women. Just having lunch with him the other day he couldn’t help himself flirt casually with the sexiest woman that walked in.

He wasn’t distracted from the conversation. I didn’t feel like he was mentally in another place. You know when you are trying to talk with someone and they are obviously not present. He just intuitively made a comment to her as she walked past us to the counter. She smiled back, and he picked it up again as she was leaving. It’s this kind of natural and casual ease that I try to instill in my students.

For sake of privacy let’s call my friend Ron. Okay, so ‘Ron’ used to work in the airline industry, and needless to say that delving into his many encounters would take quite some time. Honestly, some of his stories from those days may be too outrageous even for my readers! What follows however is how he met his last girlfriend.

He had just come out of the gym looking a tad disheveled, when he spotted a rather attractive woman walking briskly across the parking lot. There was no time to catch up to her as she was getting into her convertible, and driving away.

Ron’s gym is situated inside a resort hotel, and there was a shortcut through the hotel that allowed him to walk to the hotel entrance before she had left the parking lot. He literally makes a run for it! Having arrived at the entrance/exit just as she was pulling up at the stop sign, Ron casually walks past her car, initiates the chat with something innocuous such as, “perfect weather for driving with the top down.” He gives her that natural confident, and slightly cheeky smile of his. She agrees, and maintains good eye contact with him, but then starts to drive off.

So with nothing to lose Ron shouts after her, “Hey if you’re not doing anything later then I’ll be in Fox’s having a drink tonight about 8′o clock.. I’ll be there anyway tonight, you should stop by. She shouted back about having to be somewhere and not sure what time she would be back. He repeated, “Fox’s at 8.. I’ll be there anyway!”

She drives away.. he walks off.

As it turns out he ended up with other plans that night, and forgot all about going to the Fox bar & restaurant. The next night however, he does just happen to stop off there for a drink. It’s early evening, a few groups of people dotted about the bar. Ron scans the room confidently while walking in. Just who do you think happens to be there.. the mystery woman from the parking lot. She was talking with not one, but two gentlemen. The three of them standing at one of those taller bar tables.

Good old Ron wastes no time at all. Mystery lady was facing away from the door so she hadn’t seen him. Ron walks past the table as if he hadn’t noticed her. He walks past on her side, opposite side from the two guys. When he’s just barely past the table he looks around at the people as one naturally might.

Her eyes dart up for a brief moment, but that was all he needed. He stopped, and gave her a slightly puzzled look. You know that look that you give someone when you think you recognize them. “Wait.. I know you,” he says with a smile. “From the parking lot, right? How was your outing?”

Ron confides in me at this point that he really didn’t expect her to remember him as when he chased down her car in that parking lot he was in ratty old, sweaty gym clothes. Whereas now he was dressed pretty smart for the evening.

The first thing she retorted was, “So where were you the other night?” Apparently, she had actually turned up at the bar sometime around 8pm! By this point he had walked up to the table, and was leaning against it talking directly with her. Just ignoring the other guys. Ron kept chatting with the lady, and they had an instant date. The other two guys walked away shortly after Ron joined the table.

Following that encounter they ended up in a relationship for almost a year.

By the way.. he’s 52!

I think this is an excellent example of a natural’s direct approach. To wrap up I’m just going to point out some of the differences between “indirect game” and this natural direct type of approach. Neither way is necessarily better than the other. It really depends upon the circumstances and logistics of where you meet the girl in question.

You will also find that some approaches tend to work better for you personally. My advice is to open with both ways a large number of times until you develop that sense for what works best in a variety of situations. Discover what works most consistently for you.

To further differentiate Ron’s style from a “trained” pickup artist.. He was direct and confident the whole time. He definitely exudes a sexual masculinity that women pick up on, from his subtly cheeky smile to his sexual gaze. You can see him undressing her with his eyes, but not in a creepy way.. in the right way, that women instantly pick up on.

There were no crazy stories reiterated to the woman, no false opinion opener, no false time constraint. He didn’t open the obstacles when at the bar, instead ignoring them completely. This is in essence the confident direct and natural approach.

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I am breaking down some of the finer points of sexual flirtation, when meeting and dating women. I keep things in simple terms, and show several real life interactions with an old girlfriend of mine. Watch for the natural flirtatious flow back and forth between the two of us. In fact you may want to watch this several times.

Sexual escalation is a combination of leading from casual comfort & superficial flirtation.. to more intimate touch, and an interaction that progresses with a more sexual tone. This sexually charged flirtatious dance is a natural process. Whether it’s more playful in nature as is often the case with my personality style, or more intense in nature that is perhaps more James Bond.. the underlying principles are the same.

• Use of language to sexually tease, make her laugh, or imply sexual themes.
• Notice her response, even very subtle positive indicators are a green light.
• If her response is positive (she gives you an indicator of interest, such as laughing, holding eye contact, initiating touch, flicking her hair, etc.) then touch her in a confident and comfortable manner. You could tell her something interesting about women’s rings or fingers, while demonstrating on her hand. This can be very sexy, and yet very safe and comfortable.
• Roll off to allow a brief cool down moment. This maintains a woman’s level of comfort. It is also part of the natural sexual dance that should flow back and forth in the mating game. This is also a moment of reflection on her part, albeit subconscious on how much she enjoyed your touch, how excited she was, how turned on she was, and yet how comfortable she is around you. She wants more. It becomes a moment of anticipation.

This little process repeats and you are now sexually escalating. Of course the danger is to progress too far in an inopportune place, such as the bar or coffee shop where you meet for the first time.

Why is progressing too fast, even with maintained comfort, generally a bad thing? I don’t know if you’ve ever met a girl in a club or on a dance floor, and made out with her, or perhaps did the bump and grind thing on the dance floor. Only to have her flake on you and never see you again.

If you progress too far then a woman is able to get powerfully sexually validated in an exciting public environment, while staying in her safe zone. She is safe because nothing is actually going to happen with you there. Women will do this even when they are not particularly attracted to a guy, and therefore have no intention of seeing the guy again from the get go. Alternatively, they may actually like you, but once things progress too far in that location the thought of seeing you again can make her feel awkward. If this happens she may avoid further contact with you.

Many guys miss these principles of progressing things in the right manner. Acting like a horny dog by pushing forwards with more aggressive touchy feely behaviour, often leads to the girl feeling discomfort. A women can be attracted to a guy one minute, and then turned off the next if she feels he is not connecting with her. If she senses he is only interested in her as a sex object. The exception being women looking for a one night stand, or some more overtly sexual women such as exotic dancers perhaps who don’t necessarily value emotional connection.

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Meet women at work.. NOT like Al Bundy!

I answered a question on the forum, and thought that it would make an interesting article (skip forwards to the quote if you want.) It’s a fact that many of us have the opportunity to meet women while at work. Perhaps you are in the service sector, and attractive women are sometimes your customer. Or maybe you’re in a corporate office where there is a women that you’d like to meet. If you are holding yourself back in these situations then I’m guessing it’s not just due to a lack of flirtation skills, but also because of fears and concerns about what you think is acceptable behaviour in the work place.

In my corporate engineering career I often found myself in client offices with some absolutely beautiful women. I’m sure it comes as no surprise that they were rarely in the engineering department.. haha. At the time I had no idea how to approach them, I lacked confidence with women, and I also had all sorts of concerns floating around my head. I didn’t know if flirting or dating girls in the office would be frowned upon. I was worried about being accused of sexual harassment. I didn’t know what my boss or client supervisor would think. Looking back most of my concerns back then just seem laughable. It is possible however to make a stupid mistake in the workplace and then these can in fact become very real issues, so some discretion is important.

Here’s the kicker.. I had been working for a client out in california for several months, when I find out that one of my co-workers.. a friend of mine.. had actually slept with half the girls in the office. One was even married! At the time I was just flawed as I really wanted to ask a co-worker out but had no idea how to go about it, and he had probably already slept with her and moved on.

What follows is the dialogue between a chap on the forum, and myself about his work related situation: 

Reader’s Question:

I work at a mall, selling women’s shoes, yeah like al bundy, except in my case, beautiful young women come in on a daily basis. Everyone always says gee you must be getting a lot of numbers, but I’m not. Some of my coworkers are known for getting phone numbers easily, and i can’t seem to understand how they do it….some times i can see it in their eyes they’re interested, but i don’t know what to say, any tips?

thanks ahead of time..

JDOG’s Reply:

A close friend of mine sells ladies shoes for a living, and I’ve joked with him about having a foot fetish in an attempt for him to let me handle his customer’s feet..

Actually, the situation you are in applies to anyone who is in the service sector. I think there is a reservation that many guy’s have about overstepping boundaries, in addition to any lack of confidence that they may have with women. They don’t want to be reported if they miss-read a girl’s interest.

Here are my thoughts:

• It’s important to be well calibrated to avoid any complaints or awkwardness. Perhaps in your case you need to move out of your comfort zone (or as faro put it.. expand your comfort zone) in order to further develop your ability to sense where other people are emotionally at.
• Being confident, and a little flirtatious is generally good salesmanship anyway! (I’m going to hold back on making another be like the Zohan comment)
• Depending upon the atmosphere (and code of conduct) of where you work you can flirt more blatantly, or might need to be more subtle. Either way is fine.
• I get numbers from girls working in stores, and in the mall all the time, so if they can give me their number without worrying about their boss noticing then you should be able to also.
• HAVE A REASON – If you are flirting with each other, but logistically there is only so far you can progress things. No deeper level of comfort for example as she most likely needs to continue with her day, and you need to get back to work. Therefore, have a couple of pre-planned reasons for staying in touch that you can just pull out of your back pocket without much consideration. Such as:
  • Events that you help organise on the side, or otherwise do socially; fashion shows, clubs events, house parties, website blog, event mailing list, dinner party, cookout, WINE TASTINGS, band promotion.. etc..
  • Be direct – “you seem cool, but I have to go back to work, and I’m sure you’re busy also.. Obviously I don’t know you from a hole in the wall, but how do you suppose we continue this conversation another time?” She will usually offer her number or email or social networking link at this point. Occasionally she will say she is seeing someone, or not interested.
  • When you hand her receipt also ask her to put her number down for you.. be confident and give her a sexy smile (think James Bond.)
  • “I shouldn’t do this as I’m at work, but it’s rare that you meet someone in this town with a great outlook on life.. and hey I’m a rule breaker,” then just hand her a piece of paper and a pen. Or you could tell her about a party/event coming up (any bridge for that matter), and hand her a piece of paper and a pen.
  • You could have a reason to chat on myspace or facebook.. best to have a decent profile first. I use this option when I don’t have time to build comfort as I’m very socially proofed online. This might mean getting her email or myspace link. You can always tell her to write her number down also (almost as an after thought) when she is in the middle of writing her email down.

Spoon from season 1 of the pickup artist contacted me the other day. Many of you already know that after the show finished I spent a whole month in LA hanging out with the contestants from the show, and coaching some of them for free. I felt that the ones who really wanted to learn got a raw deal from being on the show. Reality television is generally not the place to fix yourself.

Anyway, Spoon is now spending some of his time selling jewellery, where he meets a constant flow of young beautiful women.. that lucky dog..haha.. well I have to tell you he is putting everything I taught him into action, and has sent me pictures of some of the gorgeous girls that he has met while working.

You can totally do this too!

One other time that stands out in my mind was when I was shopping for a pair of Fry boots at some department store. It was a big department store, and the men’s and ladies shoe section were joined together. A chap was helping me out. He was dressed smart in a suit, with a tie, but was more dressed up than he needed to be… and far more stylish than the other sales assistants.

He also was a great communicator, coming off as a fun guy, and good salesman.. not pushy. I decided not to buy the boots as they were $200 and I wanted to shop around. A week or 2 later I went back to buy them. They were available a little cheaper online, but not by much, and I didn’t want to wait for an order to arrive.

Now I could have gone to several other stores, but the salesman was very helpful, and I liked him so I went back and purchased them from him. One of my philosophies in life is that when money is so hard to earn why effectively pay for someone’s salary if you don’t particularly like them.. or said another way if you like a sales person then let them get the commission, right?

Ok.. so on my return visit I discovered one of the reasons why that chap stood out in the way he communicated, and in his personal style. Firstly, he was making more sales! Secondly, he was a player! Not a payer in the negative sense of the word.. but this guy obviously was good with the ladies.. I watched him pretty much run 2 sets of women, while waiting to buy my boots.

You said that you “could see it in their eyes” sometimes that they are interested in you. It rarely gets clearer than that. When you feel that connection, it’s like she’s holding up a giant billboard saying, “ASK ME OUT!” or “I LKE YOU!” so back to my rules of Day Game, when you get a strong IOI act on it. Even if you are a little nervous, and say something like, “look I don’t normally do this but you just have this wonderful vibe about you.. I don’t suppose you would be interested in some stimulating conversation over a coffee, would you?”

Be the zohan!

Reader’s Reply:

Wow, I don’t know what to say other than I will definitely ACT on the opportunities i get, next time. It’s amazing how you hit every single aspect of where I was coming from, like how i don’t want to cross any boundaries or anything. I will get out of my bubble and just do it next time i get a chance, look forward to a work field report haha. thanks a lot jdog!

My closing thoughts are that when unsure always ebb on the side of caution in the workplace, and please use your own discretion. During my corporate career I did hear about a couple of incidents where people had been internally investigated following a sexual harassment accusation. One of them was a guy who filed a complaint with the HR department against a lady in the office. In those two cases nothing serious came of it, but it still leaves me with concern for anyone who is completely socially un-calibrated running rampant with routines based game in an office environment.

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FUCK..FUCK..FUCK..FUCK..FUCKING..FUCK!! Please for sanity’s sake stop once and for all from using blatantly stock material, especially when it was broadcast to millions on national television. Using an Opinion Opener, or more accurately a False Opinion Opener is a fine and marvellous concept, but there are more, and better ways to start conversations with it than simply saying, “Hey guy’s I need a female opinion…” From now on this shall be referred to as the Taboo Words.

First let us take a journey into the past. That’s right we’re going on a little adventure so strap yourselves in, and introduce yourself to the person in the seat next to you. There are unfortunately no emergency exits, for that you might want to check out Neil Strauss’ new book, “Emergency,” according to him it might just save your life.

Speaking of Neil, as far as I know he coined the term “false opinion,” shortly after adopting Mystery’s method of using opinion openers to start conversations. The idea is that most people are more than happy to start talking about their opinions, especially women. Doubly so when the topic is about relationships. Great, so with the opinion opener we ask women a question where we need their view point, their opinion on something.

Where does the “false” come in then? This is the really sneaky part *rubs hands together like an evil villain* ..but does not mutter “woowhoo ha.ha.ha.haaaa.”

It’s false because you could care less about her(their) opinion(s). The purpose of the opener is not to get any input, it’s to get a conversation started that you can control to your own benefit. It was like discovering a secret back door in the code to talking to women. A way to get them to stop and take notice of you, when previously nice/nerdy guys found that they were quickly brushed off or ignored by attractive women.

Traditionally guys (without game) would open with compliments, or otherwise convey their interest far too early. Attractive women don’t need to meet another guy, especially one who she feels might be clingy, or lack confidence and masculinity. The False Opinion opener got around all that. No wonder there are so many references to The Matrix in the Seduction Community. By using it you telegraphed no interest, and from the girl’s perspective there was no need to brush you off because you obviously had no intention of hitting on her, right? Riiiiggghhht. Genius.

The sneaky part being that you never allow them to really give you an opinion. Instead you swiftly snatch back the conversation while inducing a state of attraction in the girl, which in turn allows you to convey your interest in her. She of course is now both happy and grateful for your interest. Everyone goes home happy.. I mean together.. together and happy.. for a nice ending.. a nice, happy ending.

Equipped with the intellectual knowledge of the process however, many men have found the attraction part to be frustratingly elusive for themselves. Oh yes, speaking of which the attraction is achieved through a cleverly orchestrated series of routines that incorporate use of language, gesture, touching, and the implication of attractive alpha-male or otherwise attractive traits.

BUMP.. BANG.. CRASH.. your ride has now come to an end, and.. you are actually pretty groovy.. thanks for coming, and please continue on to a life of better ways to start conversations.. starting.. NOW!

The first rule of Fight Club is, you do not talk about Fight Club. NO! Shit! Wrong set of rules *shakes head* The first rule is empty the cup, and realise there are no rules. Once you communicate in the way that women find attractive there is no need to stick to a process or any defined rules.. once it clicks you just get it. There seems to be a learning cycle for men that find the seduction community.

They start off with a serious lack of women in their life, so they learn routines, rules, and processes to attract them. They start seeing some results.. they get women in their life, and then it just clicks and they no longer need to try so hard because they have actually changed for the better, and thus have something real to offer. Women are genuinely attracted to them because they like them for them. Their confidence is now real, positively reinforced by real life experiences. This is true for some, but unfortunately it is also the ideal scenario and many guys never actually get there, lost in the cycle. Hopefully somewhat better than when they began, but not always.

Wow, this is some heavy shit considering I was just gonna give you a little lesson on more natural, smoother ways to use the concept of the false opinion opener. Let’s get back to that shall we. There are so many ways to get a conversation going on the right track, for this article though I’m specifically covering alternative ways of using opinion openers. I’ve heard many reports of guys getting busted when starting off with the Taboo Words, where women might say, “Yes I’ve heard that one before.” or even “What.. are you then gonna neg me?” For someone (an AFC) just starting out getting a cold response like that could be devastating.

Fear not! Opinion openers today can be just as effective for the budding seducer as they were when we – the old timers of the online seduction community – were running around robotically repeating the Taboo Words to all those unsuspecting fine fillies (Circa 2002-2003.) Without further a do here are my preferred way’s of using this principle:

Start a conversation with your friends, and then either over the shoulder, or just turning to the people next to you bring them into your conversation by saying something like, “what do you guy’s think about this, we’re talking about…” or “No way I don’t believe these guys (gesturing to your friends) they say blah blah blah..” This works really well because it’s not contrived at all (or at least doesn’t appear that way,) as you are right in front of them having a conversation amongst yourselves. It’s very natural.

“I just got off the phone, and my friend told me the craziest thing..” (then go into your story / false opinion question remembering to omit the Taboo Words) This is a way of verbally grounding your opinion question so that it makes sense and is not questioned. You know you are doing something wrong if they say, “Why are you telling us this?” or “Why are you asking us this?”

“Help me settle something.. blah blah..”

Pre-open with something else such as by pointing away and saying, “wow I just had the weirdest conversation over there.” Then tell them what the discussion was about, and run your false opinion question sans the Taboo Words. Another pre-opener might be something lower octane and as simple as saying “how are u guys doing tonight?” or “I love cabbage.. *pause then smile* just kidding I hate it.” and roll into opener.

Run an opinion opener as normal just subtly change the question so that if they are familiar with the Taboo Words it won’t set off any bells. For example:

• “What do you guys make of this..”
• “You seem intelligent perhaps you have some insight into this..”
• “Have you ever had a quandary?”
• “I’m in a quandary..”
• “High five” high five them.. rock out and/or false time constraint.. then roll into the opener
• Simply roll right into your question or make a statement as your opening hook line. Omit the forsaken Taboo Words just say “Spiderman or Batman?.. who would win in a fight?” or “Should a guy live with 3 women?” or “OMG I just saw my best friend’s girlfriend making out with another girl.. should I tell him? Do you think kissing is cheating? OMG”

Here’s my closing thought, as complex as it unnecessarily may be. The principles of attraction always stay the same, but when the processes by which those principles are exploited become known memetically over time to enough people, new processes must evolve to maintain their effectiveness. There.. I’ve found a way to relate co-evolutionary theory to the art of seduction. I think.. *scratches head*

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The biggest disadvantage is.. working from home! I teach interpersonal communication skills, and anyone who has telecommuted for a prolonged period of time will agree that the lack of social interaction can actually become depressing. While I don’t miss working in a cubicle I do miss the social office environment.

A few days ago I was posting on some technology message board when I stumbled upon a post from a guy who said he was so lonely working from his home office. He said that although he makes really good money, he spends on average 9 hours a day in a little room, with nobody to talk to, and the loneliness was really getting to him. Freelance programming and website development is his actual profession.

That post started quite a long discussion where many people chimed in about how they too were making great money by telecommuting, but were also suffering from the same loneliness, induced by a total lack of social interaction.

Prior to me working from a home office my whole engineering career involved a considerable amount of travel and field work, where I got used to working out of Starbucks coffee shops. Personally, if I stay inside working all day I go stir crazy.

On a side note… similar to opening 3 warm up sets (groups of people) to get in the zone when in a club environment, the baristas (usually cute girls) are my warm up set during the day. Not just a warm up set, but part of putting me on the right track for being the social, fun, and playful guy that people love to meet when out and about during the day.

So my advice to anyone who works from home is to use a laptop, and work from the wifi connection in coffee shops. Many of them have free wifi for customers, and Starbucks now provides 2 hours free wifi when you buy a prepaid card. Prior to this you would have to spend $20-$30 per month on Tmobile or AT&T wifi access.

OK, so I hope that there’s already some sanity saving advice here, but the real tip of the day relates to the fact that the music at most Starbucks is ANNOYING at best! I’ve had to leave on many occasion, because the combination of their music selection and volume levels can be like mind torture, especially when you’re trying to focus on work.

Sanity Saving Tip: Use a pair of noise isolating headphones, and work from your own blissful bubble of sound. My favourite brand is Shure, as I mentioned in the “Losing my connection..” article. Shure just make a great product that improves my quality of life.. highly recommended.

Do you want to meet women during the day? Yes, then realize there’s quite a bit you can do to improve your chances if coffee shops happen to be your hunting ground.. and making them your virtual office does have some advantages from that respect. Last week I was working at the same table that I’m writing from at this very moment. It was crowded in here, and my table had the only available seats. A couple asked if they could share the table with me, of course I said yes. It turned out that they were just friends, and I ended up leaving with the girl’s number and some tentative plans for reconnecting. No hunting involved on that occasion.. honest

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"You totally like Adam Sandler movies!"

Tonight I was driving past a Blockbuster video store, when I saw a cute blond girl through the window staring at a rack of videos. Of course I had no intention of renting a video so I drove home right? Of course NOT.. I pulled up, went inside, sauntered next to the girl, and the conversation went something like this..

(I stand next to her and give her my mischievous smile)

jdog: “Can I help you?” (she looks at me.. I smile)

girl: “Oh.. you work here?”

jdog: “no.. I’m an expert!” (I nod)

girl: “really?”

jdog: “yes.. indeed I am an expert video renter.. untold hours of movies have been watched by these eyes.” (I point to my eyes.. she cracks a smile.. and I roll off a little like I’ve lost interest)

jdog: “my favorite is Mary Poppins..” (I turn to her and snatch the video out of her hand) “no.. no.. no.. this won’t do.. you will watch..” (I tap my temples and look up like I’m contemplating something important.. I glance at her with a pondering expression)  ”..hmm you are difficult to read.. but I know just the movie for you.. follow me..”

I start to walk off, and glance back at her. She isn’t following. This is expected. I give her a bewildered look.. I “tsk”.. shake my head, and say.. “come on” and move my head towards my left shoulder in a ‘follow me’ gesture.. she follows… nice!

Now this is an excellent playful roleplay that could be done anywhere, and could be lead in many different directions. In this situation I could have lead her to the horror section.. romance.. kids movies.. etc.. and busted on her, or have been witty while getting to know her. I could have asked her some qualifying questions in a playful testing manner, such as “wait, are you into comedies?” or “You totally like Adam Sandler movies!”

I chose to go to the television section and handed her Season 1 DVD 1 of Californication. “here watch this.. don’t say I never give ya nothin’,” I said. She reacted by instantly pushing me in the arm.

girl: “you’re crazy”

jdog: “you hit like a guy” (I turn my body away slightly)

Now we are flirting!

jdog: “no.. seriously.. take it.. put it under your sweater I won’t tell anyone.. their cameras are down right now.. I know cos I have a man on the inside.. after this I’m stealing a copy of…” (I look left and right) I whisper, “Jerry Maguire.”

girl: “so you just follow around women and hit on them in blockbusters?”

jdog: “pretty much.. i’m here 6 days a week now.. who knew that women like guys that like movies. How am I doing?.. Wait! don’t answer that.. just watch Californication and if you decide that David Duchovny’s character is cool then maybe we can hang out again sometime… Next time though I think we should cruse the horror section.. you bring the Ben and Jerry’s.”

girl: “what do you do? who are you? you’re funny..” she bombards me.. this is normal.. she ’s smiling.. her hand flicks through her hair.. looks like some IOI’s

jdog: “Yes, I know.. I love being appreciated.. hi I’m Justin.” (I hold out my hand. she puts her hand in mine)

girl: “I’m Kateshazizzle” (name has been changed.. hopefully Kate doesn’t read my blog)

jdog: “I’m just gonna call you Blockbusters.. so, Blockbusters do you come here often.. (I smile and give her a bit of a sexual glance) .. you’re cool though.. you have a great sense of humour… I like that.”

(still holding hands)

jdog: “Wait I must be crazy talking to a complete stranger in a video store.. you could be a serial killer.. you’re not are you?” (I take my hand away, as if frightened.. she does that shocked/surprised girl thing where they open their mouth as if to say something, but only make a “uuuhhh” sound.. with their eyes all wide and surprised and their jaw dropped real low. She smacks my arm again.. a good thing.. hehe)

jdog: “So how do you suggest we stay in touch.. you know to discuss our movie notes and everything?”

girl: “You have a phone don’t you?” (I hand her a pen.. and lean my body against hers.. pull back my sleeve exposing my forearm.. she writes)

jdog: “Mhhhh you smell really good” (I smell her neck) “wow.. ok I really should go.. you smell too good for me to be around right now.” (I roll off)

girl: “Where are you from?”

We chat about 10 more minutes.. I tell her about a couple of social events coming up that I’ll be at with friends.. I find out a little about her.. we have a playful flirtatious back and forth.. this is a very familiar scenario for me.

So I hope you can see how a simple phrase such as, “I am an expert,” can start a fun interaction, where you can be flirtatious, you can rollplay, and even create a shared conspiracy together. Let’s see where else do you suppose you could start a conversation this way? How about; a book store, the grocery store, a coffee shop, in fact pretty much anywhere you could jokingly be a ‘fake’ expert.

Using fun, playful and even mischievous openers is without doubt my favourite way to start a conversation. Why? ..because it is very disarming, and if done right will allow the other person to experience good feelings.  It even creates a great sense of comfort between you. If you treat people like they are already old friends, and you exude such a comfort around them, then they too will instantly feel comfortable around you.

The key here, as with any method of starting a conversation, you need to transition and move things forwards. I should know cos I’m an expert!

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1. Direct Opener By A Natural
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Just the 1st video.. a little impromptu, and lots more on the way!! 

Whew.. Finally I have the first video up for my newsletter readers, or perhaps I should say viewers. My apologies again for the delay, especially to those of you who signed up early and have been waiting quite some time. Creating these videos is a new experience for me, and just like anything new there are some teething problems.

First off I want to thank you for taking an interest, as without all of your requests and questions I really don’t know if I would have taken the time to work on this. However, the more time I spend the more I realize just how much knowledge and experience I have to talk about. I’m extremely excited by what’s in store for you in upcoming videocasts, with demos, and girls, it’s going to blow you away! 

For sticking with me I have another surprise. In my website intro I said that I was going to give you 1 free hour of video.. well I’ve changed my mind, I’m not going to give you 1 hour, there will be more, lot’s more! Most likely I’ll stick to this format of about 20 to 25 minute clips.. and please remember to post your comments below. 

In this clip I’m casually talking about some of my thoughts on using indirect game, opening, and the differences between meeting women during the day, and at night. I often talk about my natural conversational style, while warning people about the dangers of being too scripted. However, I am a strong proponent for using routines, and a routine stack in certain situations. Routine stacks ‘will’ improve your game. 

Now here’s the caveat; There are some serious issues with becoming too scripted. For example guys who resent, or do not have respect for women use routines (long after the initial flirtation) as a method of control, and as a mechanism for avoiding any real emotional connection. If your goal is the psychological control of women then please unsubscribe from my list. 

I’m trying to encourage you to become a well rounded individual, who leads an interesting life. Someone that is confident and comfortable in social situations, and that women just find drawn to. For many of us the only way to get better with women is from a heck of a lot of in-field experience, feeling the way with canned routines. I encourage this, and will teach you how to make routines work for you. What I will also teach you is how to be interesting in any conversation, and how to have a natural social vibe, while conveying the right kind of male sexuality that drives women crazy with desire! 

Now, remember to have some FUN out there.. make those women smile, and enjoy the ride! 

JDOG

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1. Using Routine Stacks To Pick Up Women
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