How To Be More Interesting
When I teach a seminar I will ask the audience what they do on a monthly basis that other people may find interesting, and preferably something they feel passionate about. Exploring your passions, and developing them into real hobbies can have an exponentially beneficial effect on your love life.
We tend to talk with more enthusiasm about things that we are passionate about. Emotions are contagious, and those good feelings will spread to the person you are talking to. They will find you more captivating and interesting from that emotional exchange alone. Passionate talkers are often charismatic conversationalists.
Women are profoundly attracted to men that can talk with passion, conviction, and enthusiasm. If you are asking the question, “How can I talk more passionately?” The best answer is to actually be passionate about what you are talking about. Make sense?
We all have busy lives, so just how can we put this living with passion concept into effect? The absolutely easiest way is to read. Yes, reading about something that you find fascinating is perfect. I find that I am always learning, and much of my reading these days is done online because of the instant access to information. Continually learning is very important to me. In “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” Steven Covey calls this “Sharpening The Blade,” the 7th habit.. if you haven’t read the book I ‘highly’ recommend it.. oh and sorry for spoiling the ending :-D
I find so many things fascinating, and everyday I spend a couple of hours learning something new online. I’ve spent time reading about such topics as; skateboarding, motorcyles, finance, politics, and most recently what would appear to be the very boring subject of RSS Feeds. Haha well I did choose to study engineering in university.
Now you would think that telling a girl that RSS stands for Really Simple Syndication would completely bore her. Women like, want, and are attracted to intelligent men, just not boring men. It is always possible to talk about seemingly mundane topics in a captivating and attractive way. This is doubly true if you talk with passion for the subject. It does go without saying though that women will find certain topics of conversation more interesting than others. I would definitely not recommend talking about RSS Feeds as a tactic to meet women.. LOL.
I used to open girls by asking if they could program in PHP as I needed help working on my website, and then I’d tell them I was such a nerd. Actually this worked really well for me because my fashion style was cooler than the average guy, and I came across in a confident and flirtatious way. So the nerd talk complimented those qualities to add depth, and create intrigue.
By no means am I suggesting that you talk about such things. I’m simply demonstrating from my own experience how even those topics can work in your favour. Women will undoubtedly be more interested if the conversation were about something more exciting, such as your recent wake boarding experience.
From the meeting women persecutive it is far more advantageous to actually get involved and do something that you are passionate about. Yes, we are men, and it can be said that our motivation for everything we do in life is connected to our desire for women. You should pursue your passions though primarily for you.
Here is a selection of several ways that I have indulged in my interests and passions. Some are ongoing, and others were one off experiences:
Few of us can honestly get away with the excuse that there is just no time. Even with a busy work schedule we can usually find ways to make time. Watching less television springs to mind.
Certain things interest me personally that may be of little interest to you. We are all individuals. Take a moment to think about something that you always wanted to do, learn, or perhaps something that gets you excited at the thought of doing it. Next think about what ways you can explore that opportunity. Write it down.. make an action list. Keep it simple this should only take you about 10 minutes. Then set a firm start date.. hint.. this week would be perfect. Start this evening and you are definitely a man of action!
What about if you meet a girl before you’ve taking any action? You can still talk about your plans in an excited and enthusiastic way. This can be equally compelling and attractive. The potential pitfall is mis-calibrating her level of interest. So don’t get carried away.
Keep her involved in the conversation, simple is better than complicated, and tap into universal experiences and emotions. A universal experience is something that everyone can relate to, because it is common enough that they have experienced it themselves. It can be the act of doing something, or just feeling a specific emotion, like the butterflies in your stomach on a roller coaster.
When a woman meets me she doesn’t meet a guy that’s running game on her. She meets someone that is interesting who talks with passion, that also happens to have good game. Don’t make the mistake of letting the seduction arts define you.