Let me explain.

For example, I interact in different social situations (no matter with whom) and I later realize what mistakes I made. But – I don't seem to encounter similar situations again.

However – one conclusion based on my mistakes is to NEVER postpone something that could further our connection for later. For example if I had the chance to spend another 15 minutes with a girl, I used to think I could meet her another time.

Big mistake!

First, that another time might not come at all. Second, the emotional state she was when we met will not be the same.

Another conclusion I made, based on this post, is to use the negative emotions, instead of trying to dumb them down (with escapism, movies or whatever).

Cheers man,

Yavor

YES! It's very important (as with business and other areas of life) to reflect on all the accomplishments, small and large alike, that you've made over time.

Keeping a journal can definitely help with this. When running my engineering business it seemed like I was always fighting fires, and battling to just keep everything on track. I made daily action item lists in my business journal, and every couple of months I would look back through the pages to review. I was often amazed at how much I had accomplished.

Keep it up!

I often forget that just a while ago I couldn't summon the courage to walk up to a pretty girl and say 'hi'!

I'm going to go back to keeping a journal detailing each set I run with notes about what did and didn't work. I think that will be a big motivator for me!

As Will_Soh said above as well, it's good to see that other people also fail or face difficulties when they learn this art. Most mPUA's only talk about their successes, which makes you think they never failed (=had a learning opportunity). Just like Tony Clink said: ” The fact is, even the best PUAs lose more times than they score. Can you imagine batting .500? (…) Believe me, it's not going to happen.” Or Ross Jeffries: “The difference between winners and losers is that losers don't fail enough.”

The article also reminded me of another problem that I have, namely a fear of success. When things go in the right direction with a beautiful women, I often cut myself off and prevent myself from being successful and 'winning' (I have the same when playing sports 1-on-1). It's like a fear of being the best, because then there is the (social) pressure to stay at the top, and you have to work for it constantly. Furthermore, things could only go worse from that point. Being average is much easier, and you can continue dreaming about the things you could achieve and how nice life will get when you finally get there.

Well, this article is very inspiring. Thnx!

Anyways, lately I've been busting through this finally and here are some things that helped me out..

1) Having a wing – having someone to go out with who is learning just like you is great.. basically its a good reminder you're not alone!

2) Getting rejected.. I've been rejected so much that I know I can handle it. In a wierd way, its given me a certain level of confidence. I've learned that its not going to kill me. Plus, I remind myself that any 'rejection' isn't personal or permanent – hell the girl doesn't really know who you are from 5 or 10 minutes of conversationl, plus we can all think a scenario when a 'no' has turned into a 'yes' later… I take a 'no' to mean 'no at this point in time'

3) Going direct – I recently had the experience of walking straight up to a girl I thought was hot and telling her flat out that I thought she was cute and wanted to see what she was like… she was working, but when i suggested she get back to work, she told me she could stay and talk, and she was playing with her hair the whole time… now I actually lost that set- didn't get the number… I think I made the mistake of trying ot build too much comfort when I should've flirted and been more playful before hand.. but strangely enough, I walked away from that interaction with TONS of confidence. Though I didn't get the number, I was able to LEARN from the experience, analyze it objectively and develop a different gameplan for next time. Most importantly, I respected myself becuase it took balls and I didn't back down.

4) Student frame – when I go out, I have the mindset of “I'm here to learn, not to get any one girl”

Anyways, those are just a couple things that helped me- I couldn't agree more with having emotional leverage and a postive review process – those are key.. even if it seems fake to talk to yourself positively at first about an interaction – keep doing it, and it will become a habit.

But I believe that 100% of the girls I approach will go in my favor because your beliefs effect every interaction and your whole life.

If you want to believe that 70% will go good for you then that is what you will get 70%. Otherwise u will think something is out of order.

I just want to make you aware of where you are putting your “knowing”.

If Knowing that you can't get any girl matters, then knowing that you can get any girl matters.