How Important Are Looks?

This article was in response to several posts made on www.arizonapua.com/forum from a guy who was having issues with his self image.

but i do go out there and game.  girls look at me like im a freak and walk away or give me the hand or roll their eyes…..EVERY FUCKING TIME!!!!  and im at penn state U…one of the biggest pussy schools on the planet for 3 years and still havent gotten shit, not even a kiss, and i go out every weekend.  so all im sayin is im hideous and to continue trying to use game is fucking pointless.  thank you.

Yes, looks are important I agree, but in my opinion from what you have posted [edit: and the pictures he had online] there is 0% correlation between your looks and the responses (you personally) are getting.

PLEASE NOTE THAT THIS INDIVIDUAL POSTED MANY MESSAGES TO MY ARIZONAPUA MESSAGE BOARD, AND THERE WAS A DEFINITE PATTERN IN HIS BEHAVIOUR, AND BELIEFS THAT MADE ME REACH SUCH A CONCLUSION ABOUT HIM.

He also stated that his self image was justified based upon the responses he was receiving from online match and rating websites, like hotornot.

He failed to realise that the whole way in which he was communicating was making him appear rather unattractive to women.. and that negative feedback he was receiving had NOTHING to do with his actual physical looks.

Unfortunately, like so many of us, he would take the cold responses from women and apply it to his already negative self image. Such psychological processes of negative reinforcement are actually very damaging to [Read more…]